Financial Parenting Archives - Sands & Associates Trustee in Bankruptcy Sun, 16 Jun 2024 17:57:39 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.3 “It’s All Relative”: Understanding Debt Liability for Couples & Families https://www.sands-trustee.com/blog/understanding-debt-liability-for-couples-families/ https://www.sands-trustee.com/blog/understanding-debt-liability-for-couples-families/#respond Mon, 22 Mar 2021 15:15:41 +0000 https://www.sands-trustee.com/?p=10114 As Licensed Insolvency Trustees it’s common for us to hear from people who are concerned about someone else’s debt problem, or how their own challenges with debt might impact someone else. We often address questions from children worried about their parents’ financial situation (and vice versa), friends inquiring for friends, bosses about employees – and […]

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As Licensed Insolvency Trustees it’s common for us to hear from people who are concerned about someone else’s debt problem, or how their own challenges with debt might impact someone else. We often address questions from children worried about their parents’ financial situation (and vice versa), friends inquiring for friends, bosses about employees – and most frequently, spouses concerned about the potential implications of their debt on their partner and family.

When you or your loved one is in debt, it can be difficult to seek professional debt advice or information about potential resources if you are feeling overwhelmed or embarrassed about your situation. Many people fear that their personal debts may turn into larger family financial issues if they are not able to pay off their debts, either as planned, or before they pass away.

What Canadians need to understand is that relationships alone do not create an automatic responsibility when it comes to repaying someone else’s debts. Read on to learn more about what can impact a person’s liability for someone else’s debts, and where you can get debt help in BC.

When is Your Spouse Responsible for Your Debt?

Getting married or having a common-law relationship does not mean that partners have assumed legal responsibility for each others’ debts – this is a very common myth. Unfortunately, many people misunderstand their legal obligations to creditors and consequently make financial decisions without understanding the facts of the situation that may result in a worse outcome than if they were fully aware of all of the rules surrounding debt in BC.

Relationships alone do not make you legally obligated to repay someone else’s debt, but a responsibility for debts may be triggered by:

  • Specifically co-signing on or co-borrowing debts together; or,
  • Debts being divided as part of a separation or divorce pursuant to BC’s Family Law Act.

What’s more, it’s important to understand that although your relationship alone does not create a debt obligation, a spouse or common-law partner can be impacted by certain actions of their partner’s creditors in the event their spouse is unable to meet their repayment commitments. One common example of this ‘bystander effect’ is where a couple holds a joint bank account at the same financial institution at which one owes a debt, and that creditor exercises their “right of offset” by withdrawing money they are owed from the joint account.

Coping with money issues in relationships can be incredibly challenging, and the stress is often compounded by a lack of awareness of your legal rights and remedies when it comes to debt. A Licensed Insolvency Trustee can help you understand your responsibilities when it comes to debts and can work with you on a plan that will allow you and your family to get a financial fresh start.

“[I] did not understand that I could have declared bankruptcy and settled my debt separate to my spouse while married and then only he would have remained in debt. I believed we both had to declare at the same time if we were married and shared the debt.”

– What were the reasons you waited to seek professional debt help? | 2020 BC Consumer Debt Study

Family Money Problems

Just as your spouse or common-law partner is not legally responsible to your creditors for paying your debts (unless they are a co-signer/co-borrower), neither are other family members responsible solely by virtue of being related to you.

Not having co-signed or joint debt with another person is the single best way to avoid transferring responsibility for debt and avoid someone else personally “inheriting” your debt. What many people do not realize until it’s too late is that the easiest thing you can do to give a creditor additional means to recover their debt is to co-sign or co-borrow debts with another party. We’re often asked when it may be a good decision to co-sign a debt for another person – our answer is ‘almost never’.

Co-Signed and Joint Debt

Proceed with extreme caution before you agree to co-sign or co-borrow with another person or business. Although your intentions may be good, and the intentions of your co-borrower are to make all of their payments as needed, life happens and unexpected events can create unanticipated financial challenges.

Co-signed/joint debts come in many forms, including loans, credit cards, leases, mortgages and more. By co-signing on a debt with someone (related or not) you become equally responsible for paying back 100% of the full balance due if the other person does not pay.

It’s important to note that:

  • ‘Joint and several’ liability means each borrower in the loan or agreement is responsible for the entire unpaid balance, not half.
  • Some borrowing agreements may even contain an ‘acceleration clause’ which allows the creditor to demand the full balance be paid immediately if a borrower breaks any part of the agreement, like missing payments.
  • Credit card terms may vary depending on the lender. Always read applications and agreements carefully to be clear on what each cardholder is responsible for; do not assume secondary cardholders have a lesser responsibility for the total balance, regardless of who made the original purchases.
  • Be especially cautious during the purchase or lease of a vehicle – many people simply do not realize the full commitment they are making on a joint obligation because their partner plans to be the primary insurer and driver.

Read an Overview of Seize or Sue and Vehicle Loans in BC

Co-signed and joint debt often adds a stressful emotional layer in challenging financial situations. A Licensed Insolvency Trustee can help you resolve your debt issues and ultimately stop the ongoing negative effects that financial stress may be having on important relationships in your life.

Debts and Divorce

Although you are not undertaking a legal responsibility for repaying your spouse or common-law partner’s debts upon marriage or cohabitation it’s important to be aware that separation or divorce can trigger a division of ‘family debts’ in BC. BC’s Family Law Act defines family debt as financial obligations a spouse incurred:

  • During the period when the spouses’ relationship began and ending when the spouses separate; and
  • After the spouses separate, if incurred for maintaining family property.

Family debts may include mortgages, personal loans from individuals, overdrafts, lines of credit, credit cards, income tax debt and more. Upon separation, family debts are shared equally unless:

  • You and your spouse have made a different agreement about dividing debt between you; or
  • A judge orders a different division of family debts.
    • This may be ordered in situations where an equal division may be “significantly unfair”.

Regardless of the outcome of your separation or divorce, the creditor who is owed the debt will still consider the person who signed for the debt responsible for repaying it and will seek payment as per the lending agreement/terms. Creditors can only collect on the debt from the borrower, even if the debt is “divorce divided”.

An insolvency proceeding such as a personal bankruptcy or legal consolidation with a Consumer Proposal can relieve a spouse of their obligation to repay their “divided portion” of family debt.

While filing bankruptcy or making a Consumer Proposal can consolidate virtually all types of debt, or even have most debts forgiven – there are two exceptions to this, pertinent to divorce-debts, where these debts would survive and remain payable:

  • Outstanding child support balances; and,
  • Outstanding spousal support balances.

In the event of a bankruptcy or Consumer Proposal, payment requirements for ongoing child support or spousal support would continue to be made as per usual throughout either a personal bankruptcy or Consumer Proposal process.

What Happens to Your Debt When You Die?

The death of a loved one does not transfer their debt to someone else personally. As outlined below in more detail:

  • A co-borrower’s obligation for repaying joint or co-signed debts will remain, but if a person was not responsible for your debts when you were alive, they will not become responsible upon your death.
  • If you have unpaid debt when you die, your creditor can try to make a claim on your estate, meaning that the proven debt may be paid from proceeds of your estate (if any).

“Since realizing that I was not legally responsible for debt solely in my late husband’s name, I would have paid my own debts first and been debt-free when he died. I would not have been happy to leave his debts unpaid, but I would have been under far less financial pressure.”

 – Knowing what you know now, what is one action you would have done differently in managing your debt? | 2020 BC Consumer Debt Study

Will my Children Have to Pay my Debt When I Die?

Many people think that their children may become responsible for taking on their payments to creditors in the event they pass away. This is untrue – neither children (nor spouses or other family members) inherit a personal liability for paying your debt when you die.

Knowing is not owing! Managing your estate planning is best done with the help of a BC lawyer who specializes in wills and estate planning. If paying off debt is a priority for you, a Licensed Insolvency Trustee can work with you on a plan to successfully get you to debt-free at any stage of life.

Getting Professional Debt Help

It is important that each person has a clear understanding about their personal debt obligations. If you are worried about how to manage your debts, are unsure as to your responsibility for repaying a debt, or are struggling with debt-stress, the best thing to do is connect with a BC Licensed Insolvency Trustee.

A Licensed Insolvency Trustee will offer multiple options to protect you and your assets and can assist you and/or your spouse in paying off debts in a timely and affordable way, or alternatively having debts written-off and forgiven by creditors.

Risks of Self-Assessing Debt Solutions

Interpreting the laws around consumer debts can be complicated, and many people misunderstand their rights and responsibilities when it comes to dealing with debt. Unfortunately, some of the steps people often take in attempting to remedy a money problem can sometimes make the problem worse or create a new issue. Common examples of this include:

  • Assuming responsibility for a debt for which there is in reality no personal legal obligation to repay
  • Being pressured into making unnecessary payments or payment agreements by collection agents
  • Incorrectly assuming certain debts cannot be legally consolidated or forgiven
    • This commonly occurs where people are dealing with government debts like income taxes, student loans, etc.
  • Engaging the services of high-cost or unlicensed debt help agents
    • Both for-profit and non-profit credit counsellors may promote their services over other options as they receive money from creditors (a percentage of the debt they recover from your settlement).
  • Depleting RRSPs in attempt to protect them from creditors
    • BC residents are entitled to automatic protection on several different assets, including a comprehensive exemption allowance for RRSPs.
  • Involving family members through transfers of assets, preferential payments or otherwise
    • In addition to creating a shared debt obligation from co-signing, certain actions may unintentionally have consequences for family members who end up involved with your debts. For example, Canada Revenue Agency may issue “third party assessments” against property recipients in certain situations, to collect on a debt owed by another individual.

Learn about Ways to Have Government Debts Forgiven

Licensed Insolvency Trustees are the only debt help professionals fully endorsed and qualified by the federal and provincial government and can help you to:

  • Understand your specific situation, mapping out your needs and goals
  • Assess all options available to deal with your debts
  • Consolidate virtually all types of debt, including government debts, without borrowing, interest or added fees
  • Have debt cut down to an affordable amount with lowered monthly payments
  • Stop creditors from taking action against you for payment
  • Get all your debt fully forgiven

Anyone can access debt resources via a Licensed Insolvency Trustee confidentially to discuss their personal situation and get advice. You are under no obligation to commit to any formal debt management proceeding and there is no cost to connect and get assistance.

Impact to Your Spouse of Bankruptcy or Consumer Proposal

Many people considering a formal debt management solution such as a personal bankruptcy or Consumer Proposal worry about a potential impact to their spouse or family. The good news is that not only can you take steps to legally deal with your debt independently of your spouse, but your decision to claim bankruptcy or make a Consumer Proposal does not transfer responsibility of those debts to your spouse either.

  • If your spouse is not a co-signer/joint borrower on your debts, then they will not be impacted by your bankruptcy or Consumer Proposal.
  • Your spouse does not become responsible for completing any duties or payments agreed to under your personal bankruptcy or Consumer Proposal.
    • In some cases, a person’s spouse or partner may not even be aware that the filing is happening.

Learn more about What Happens If Your Spouse Is Filing for Bankruptcy

Even though your spouse may not have a legal responsibility for your debt, sharing a household often means financial stress is felt by everyone. We know that struggling with debt can bring a lot of shame and guilt. Sands & Associates is here to help you and your family get back on track – no judgment, just solutions.

Solutions to Deal with Joint Debts

Being in a position where you hold joint debts with your spouse, child, parent or other party, and one or both of you are having difficulty maintaining payments can feel overwhelming. Fortunately, there are options that can help address joint debts such as non-borrowing consolidation with a Consumer Proposal or declaring bankruptcy.

No two situations are exactly alike, and it is important to evaluate all potential options that can address both individual debts and joint debts that may be involved.

  • If spouses (or other close parties) have a substantial amount of debts in common, it may be advantageous to file a joint Consumer Proposal together to manage both parties’ debts. This would allow all debts of both partners (joint and otherwise) to be consolidated into a single, reduced monthly payment with no added interest or additional fees.
  • There is no legal requirement for both parties (even spouses) to undertake the same debt management solution.
    • For example, one spouse might file for personal bankruptcy to have all their debts forgiven, while their spouse repays the joint debt. Or one spouse may make a Consumer Proposal to consolidate and cut their debt payments while the other spouse chooses bankruptcy relief.
  • Should few (or no debts) be held together then separate solutions to address individual debt problems may be more appropriate.

A Licensed Insolvency Trustee can help you understand all your options to manage debts so you can choose the best way forward for you and your family.

Non-judgmental support, and solutions that can offer you a financial fresh start. You deserve to live with dignity, and without debt and its overwhelming stress. Book your free confidential debt consultation with Sands & Associates today.


This content is not intended to be specific legal advice; it is intended to be a simple guide in layman’s language to provide a basic overview only. E. Sands & Associates Inc accepts no responsibility for its use other than as intended. The law is an ever-changing body of statutes and decisions, and the reader is advised to seek legal counsel for specific matters relating to their situation. 

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Sands & Associates Conducts First B.C. Student Finances Study https://www.sands-trustee.com/blog/sands-associates-conducts-first-b-c-student-finances-study/ https://www.sands-trustee.com/blog/sands-associates-conducts-first-b-c-student-finances-study/#respond Fri, 25 Oct 2013 19:57:22 +0000 https://www.sands-trustee.com/?p=4533 Study results show that B.C. University students lack financial life skills and knowledge Vancouver, B.C. (October 28, 2013) —  Sands & Associates, B.C.’s Largest Firm of Licensed Trustees and Administrators of Consumer Proposals announced today, the results of their first B.C. Student Finances Study, looking at B.C. university students’ thoughts and experiences with finances and […]

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Study results show that B.C. University students lack financial life skills and knowledge

Vancouver, B.C. (October 28, 2013) —  Sands & Associates, B.C.’s Largest Firm of Licensed Trustees and Administrators of Consumer Proposals announced today, the results of their first B.C. Student Finances Study, looking at B.C. university students’ thoughts and experiences with finances and credit. The study was conducted through an in-person survey of more than 350 students at two of B.C.’s largest universities – Simon Fraser University and The University of British Columbia.

With growing concern surrounding student and recent graduate debt levels and financial habits, Sands & Associates commissioned the study to gain further insight into the patterns and mind-set of students under 25.

Key findings from the 2013 B.C. Student Finances Study show that students’ lifestyle and financial models are heavily parent-funded and typically supplemented by student loans. Additionally, a large portion of B.C. university students are statistically unrealistic toward their financial expectations post-graduation based on current earning levels in the province. A significant proportion of students surveyed reported extremely optimistic timelines for paying off their student loans, with nearly 60 percent of students anticipating being free of student loans within one calendar year of graduation.  From credit card payments to anticipated salaries, the study found basic financial knowledge lacking for significant portions of the study population.

“I view these findings as concerning as a growing portion of the insolvent population are under the age of 30.  Anything that we can do to improve students’ awareness of financial realities and potentially help them correct their financial situation before it becomes too much to handle, would be a positive thing”, says Blair Mantin, VP of Sands & Associates.

“We deal with a lot of individuals who began accumulating debt in university and find themselves hopelessly indebted 5-10 years after graduation.  We did this study as a means of understanding some of the underlying causes of this phenomenon and to shine the spotlight on the realities students face in university, some of which may lay the foundation for needing to file a bankruptcy or a consumer proposal later in life.”

The B.C. Student Finances Study is intended to run annually to track changes in BC university students’ financial habits and perceptions.

To see the complete study and detailed findings, please click here.

Sands & Associates – BC Student Finances Survey 2013

About Sands & Associates:

Sands & Associates is British Columbia’s largest firm of licensed Proposal Administrators and Bankruptcy Trustees focused exclusively on personal and small-business insolvency services. Operating from 11 offices in the Lower Mainland, Sands & Associates uses a non-judgmental, empathetic, affordable approach to helping resolve financial difficulties. To learn more, visit https://www.sands-trustee.com/

 

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Grown-Up Kids Meet Money https://www.sands-trustee.com/blog/grown-up-kids-meet-money/ https://www.sands-trustee.com/blog/grown-up-kids-meet-money/#respond Tue, 27 Nov 2012 01:28:00 +0000 https://www.sands-trustee.com/?p=2860 Shipping kids off on their own:  the day many parents love and loathe, both counting the days to and reminiscing about how fast it all went.  Since money management is a huge part of flying solo we’ve shared a few thoughts to consider when you pass along your precautionary words of wisdom: Be credit conscious:  […]

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Shipping kids off on their own:  the day many parents love and loathe, both counting the days to and reminiscing about how fast it all went.  Since money management is a huge part of flying solo we’ve shared a few thoughts to consider when you pass along your precautionary words of wisdom:

Be credit conscious:  Many young adults away from home and in charge of their financial lives for the first time may get sucked in by the lure of quick and easy purchasing with credit.  Make sure you stress that plastic doesn’t equal cash in the bank —but rather the opposite!  If they already have a credit card encourage them to keep it at home, to be used for emergencies only.  Even credit with a relatively low limit can take years to pay off, between the interest and if only minimum payments are made.

Figure out the real deals:  It’s never too soon to teach the importance of price comparison, coupon saving, and evaluating  whether or not something is actually a deal, especially if it’s not a necessity.  Unfortunately, a tempting sale sign won’t make a “want” a “need” and $200 shoes offered at half price still result in $100 spent.

Get creative with it:  No money for a gym membership?  Try walks around campus.  Textbooks breaking the bank?  Get ‘em used.  Need an occasional set of wheels?  Try a ride-share program or Zipcar rental.  Your imagination is the limit when it comes to finding creative ways to conserve cash.  For students, in particular, there is a huge variety of free resources.

Learn from mistakes:  If you’re asked repeatedly to shell out for necessities because Little Bobby or Suzie has spent too much on nights out, swanky electronics or the like, sit down and have a heart-to-heart about budgeting and some clear repercussions before handing over the cash (if you’re inclined to do so).  Parents who continually provide a financial parachute may be helping in the short term but good money management skills will take a lot longer to develop.

Before taping up that last moving box and asking for promises of weekly visits (at least for laundry), set aside some time for a money chat.  While the thought of financially weaning kids causes anxiety for some parents, try to remember that in the long run you’ll all be the better for it.  Parents who are overly accommodating in the early years risk becoming a burden to dependent children in the later ones, especially if funds earmarked for retirement have been spent along the way.

To book a free confidential meeting with Sands & Associates regarding your financial options please contact us.

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Teens and Their Dollars https://www.sands-trustee.com/blog/teens-and-their-dollars/ https://www.sands-trustee.com/blog/teens-and-their-dollars/#respond Tue, 18 Sep 2012 02:59:37 +0000 https://www.sands-trustee.com/?p=2672 If you’ve got a teen (or pre-teen) under your roof, you’ve likely noticed that besides a scarcity of food, what was once a sufficient allowance or financial life lesson for Junior (i.e. “do your chores, don’t spend it all at the candy shop”) probably isn’t quite enough anymore.  In between imparting your life experience and […]

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If you’ve got a teen (or pre-teen) under your roof, you’ve likely noticed that besides a scarcity of food, what was once a sufficient allowance or financial life lesson for Junior (i.e. “do your chores, don’t spend it all at the candy shop”) probably isn’t quite enough anymore.  In between imparting your life experience and expectations regarding their social life, school responsibilities and career planning you’ll want to ensure that your mini-me is equipped with the money know-how they’ll need in the coming years.  Read on for some thoughts on how to get started:

Communicate, Communicate, Communicate:  Yep, it’s so important we’ve got it tripled!  Many parents aren’t comfortable with money themselves and as a result keep it off “the talk” radar.  If the under-the-rug style is yours, try to move past it.  For example, if you’ve got debts, demonstrate how you regularly budget for the payments.  If there’s an aspect of money management you feel is a strong point for you, share your knowledge – don’t just assume it’ll be picked up along the way.

The ABCs of Banking:  Make sure your teen knows the ins and outs of regular banking. Understanding the difference between chequing and savings, how to write a cheque (and avoiding bouncing it), and how credit works may seem like basic concepts to an adult who has been dealing with them for years.  Teaching your kids early on can give them a real advantage in avoiding financial pitfalls once they’re off to college and riding solo.

A Budget of their Own:  Sit down with your teen and help them come up with their very own budget.  Discuss items they may have to purchase with their own money (whether it comes from an allowance or a part-time job) such as clothes, their cell phone and the latest trends. Review whether or not they’re saving up for post-secondary expenses.  Reevaluate the budget together periodically to make adjustments where they’re warranted and set new savings goals.  Since budgeting is a huge part of managing everyday finances, having one from the get-go can really help them make the grade!

While it may be tough to always get your point across with so much competing for your teen’s attention, just think how you’ll breathe a sigh of relief and deserve a pat on the back once they’ve successfully flown the coop and can effectively manage their own financial nest.

Please feel free to contact us if you would like to schedule a free, confidential consultation regarding your debt resolution options.

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Starting Kids’ Allowances https://www.sands-trustee.com/blog/starting-kids-allowances/ https://www.sands-trustee.com/blog/starting-kids-allowances/#comments Tue, 11 Sep 2012 02:09:59 +0000 https://www.sands-trustee.com/?p=2662 When it comes to children, one of the myriad goals in raising them is to teach them enough about money that they are able to become financially independent once they reach adulthood. Many adults relate that their own problems with finances and budgeting stem from never really being taught when they were young the intricacies […]

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When it comes to children, one of the myriad goals in raising them is to teach them enough about money that they are able to become financially independent once they reach adulthood. Many adults relate that their own problems with finances and budgeting stem from never really being taught when they were young the intricacies of having a healthy relationship with money. Therefore, in the interest of creating better fiscally informed future generations, read on for some tips on where to start with your own offspring while they’re still young:

WORK OUT THE DETAILS: Generally, a good guideline is $0.50 to $1 for every year (up to around the age of 12) per week: if Bobby is eight years old, $4 – $8 per week is reasonable. This might seem like a lot, but consider that you’ll probably want to encourage your child to have a few areas for which to budget their allowance: a portion to be saved (for a coveted toy or outing), some to be spent (like lunch money or bus fare), and some for others (such as gift-giving or charity).

NEGOTIATE CHORES: Sit down with your kiddo and decide on some age-appropriate chores. Work out which tasks will be mandatory and which can be done to earn spending money in addition to their allowance. This will give them the opportunity to put in extra effort towards items they want to save up for – great for goal setting – as well as teach them the value of work itself!

SET BOUNDARIES: While children are learning to budget and earn their pocket money, it’s important for both you and them to stick with the amount decided upon. It might be tough to keep quiet while Little Precious blows her money impulsively – when you know it will mean she’ll be short on funds later in the week – but this is how she’ll learn. Allowing the inevitable consequences to play out will help your child’s cash savviness much more than you reaching into your wallet week after week.

When creating your family’s allowance system keep in mind what it is that you are ultimately hoping to teach your little one about money management. Being honest and open about your family’s budget and life’s realistic expenses will also help kids understand this important life skill; they have to figure out eventually that, unfortunately, money growing on trees is the stuff of fairy tales!

If you find your debts exceeding your own “allowance” please contact us to arrange a free confidential consultation to discuss available debt resolution options.

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